Post by maureenmower on Jun 21, 2012 14:57:35 GMT -5
To all:
The following was sent to Matt, and I'm sharing it with all of you as well:
I'm sorry I haven't been around much. We got very bad news on Monday. Hubby's cancer is back, in his lymph system. I have no idea what they want to do about it, or even IF anything can be done, since this is round 2.
It hasn't metastasized yet, that we can tell. But he had such a horrible time with the last 6 months of chemo that he's not sure he's willing to go through that again. Of course, if he refuses treatment, he will die. It won't be a question of "if", but only of "when" - and since this is a very aggressive cancer, it probably won't be long.
Needless to say, my head's not in the game right now. I already buried one husband to cancer, and I am not ready to do that again.
Anyway - I've spent the last couple of days determining what my priorities have to be. Whether he goes back in chemo (which means he will be an invalid within a month, and I'm the only caretaker) or chooses to let nature take its course (which means it will be a countdown to his funeral) - my first and only real priority is taking care of him and holding things together at home.
I can't come to Philly. I can't plan anything right now, in fact - not until I know what kind of treatment they will recommend and whether he will accept it. And after - well, it all depends on how well he handles any treatment, or how quickly the cancer takes over his body.
I still hope this endeavor is successful, and I understand that I willingly took on a responsibility to the people in my district. But there was no way of knowing then that the cancer would come back just now (or at all). In fact, he was feeling exceptionally good these last few months, so this blow was the last thing we expected.
As it stands now though, my responsibility to my husband and family come first. In addition, I can't see myself being a proper representative for my district when I'm preoccupied with dealing with my husband's health needs. I also do not feel safe leaving him alone at home, and bringing him along is not advisable (per his doctor) under the circumstances.
I will stay on here at the forum until Matt can find a replacement, since I can manage that from home when hubby is napping. But I can't be a delegate, at least not in Philly.
I am sorry, but right now family has to come first.
Maureen
The following was sent to Matt, and I'm sharing it with all of you as well:
I'm sorry I haven't been around much. We got very bad news on Monday. Hubby's cancer is back, in his lymph system. I have no idea what they want to do about it, or even IF anything can be done, since this is round 2.
It hasn't metastasized yet, that we can tell. But he had such a horrible time with the last 6 months of chemo that he's not sure he's willing to go through that again. Of course, if he refuses treatment, he will die. It won't be a question of "if", but only of "when" - and since this is a very aggressive cancer, it probably won't be long.
Needless to say, my head's not in the game right now. I already buried one husband to cancer, and I am not ready to do that again.
Anyway - I've spent the last couple of days determining what my priorities have to be. Whether he goes back in chemo (which means he will be an invalid within a month, and I'm the only caretaker) or chooses to let nature take its course (which means it will be a countdown to his funeral) - my first and only real priority is taking care of him and holding things together at home.
I can't come to Philly. I can't plan anything right now, in fact - not until I know what kind of treatment they will recommend and whether he will accept it. And after - well, it all depends on how well he handles any treatment, or how quickly the cancer takes over his body.
I still hope this endeavor is successful, and I understand that I willingly took on a responsibility to the people in my district. But there was no way of knowing then that the cancer would come back just now (or at all). In fact, he was feeling exceptionally good these last few months, so this blow was the last thing we expected.
As it stands now though, my responsibility to my husband and family come first. In addition, I can't see myself being a proper representative for my district when I'm preoccupied with dealing with my husband's health needs. I also do not feel safe leaving him alone at home, and bringing him along is not advisable (per his doctor) under the circumstances.
I will stay on here at the forum until Matt can find a replacement, since I can manage that from home when hubby is napping. But I can't be a delegate, at least not in Philly.
I am sorry, but right now family has to come first.
Maureen